Weddings
1. My
fiancée and I
are not
Anglicans. Can
we be married in
an Anglican
church and how
should we
prepare for our
marriage
ceremony?
People
asking to be
married in an
Anglican Church
must fulfill the
legal
qualifications,
and fill out the
Marriage license.
And one, or both,
must be baptized
Christians. It is
further expected
that the couple
participate in
some form of
marriage
preparation. I
usually meet with
a couple 2 or 3
times, and
strongly urge that
they attend the
weekend marriage
preparation course
provided by the
Diocese (and I
might add that
I've never had a
couple attend this
course and come
back saying it is
waste time and
generally they are
quite grateful).
2. If
we got married
at an Anglican
church, would we
be encouraged to
baptize our
children in the
church?
Marriage
is placed in the
context of a life
directed to living
the love of Christ
in our
relationships or
liturgically,
living out the
death and
resurrection of
Christ. This would
imply that the
family thus
established should
want to have their
children baptized
in the church
entering into the
mystery of
Christ's love for
us, which is also
the focus of the
specific love we
celebrate in
marriage.
3. Is
there a
financial cost
for the
performance of
the marriage
ceremony and the
use of the
church organist?
Yes.
There is a lot of
time put into the
process and the
common practice is
to pay the
organist, usually
we suggest $100,
as well as making
a donation to the
church in
Thanksgiving. And
the practice of
giving an
honorarium to the
Clergy is often
maintained. But an
important
overriding
consideration is
that no one is
asked to give more
than they can
afford. In other
words, there is
flexibility.
Funerals
1.
Does the
Anglican Church
conduct the
funeral of
non-Anglicans?
I have
frequently
conducted the
funeral for a
non-Anglican. I
normally spend
some time with the
family to
ascertain if there
are any serious
problems for which
I might be of
assistance. The
focus is on
pastoral care, not
on legality. If
people approach
me, I try to be
available.
Assistance
1. I
am not an
Anglican. I am
having some
emotional and
moral challenges
in my life. Can
I be counseled
by an ordained
member of the
Anglican Church?
I think
most Anglican
clergy try to be
available to
counsel someone in
need. I know I do.
On the other hand,
not all clergy are
trained for this
ministry, although
I think we have
all had some
training. But if I
can't be of help,
I would see my
role as referral
to some one who
CAN help.
2.
Sometimes I
would like to
ask a church
group to pray
for me. Can you
explain how this
is done at St.
Cyprian's?
This is
what we are about!
You should be able
to contact the
clergy and know
that you will be
prayed for. I
would ask for
clarification as
to whether you
want to be prayed
for in church and
a request should
be all that is
needed. Or if you
want the rector's
prayers without a
name mentioned in
church, which is
OK as well.
In addition, we
have our prayer
chain where the
members take
prayer requests
and pray for the
people who
requested it on a
daily basis.
Donations
1. My
aunt is not an
Anglican. She
would like to
make a bequest
to St. Cyprian's.
Can you explain
the process and
benefits of her
action?
I think
this is as
individual as the
person making the
donation. I think
the lawyer would
be the best
advisor for this,
but I and/or the
wardens would be
pleased to discuss
making a donation
with her.
Children
1. My
children ages 2
to 10 years
would like to
accompany me to
church.
Does St.
Cyprian's
provide child
care?
It is my
sincere hope that
children be
provided for much
more than child
care and we are
looking at ways to
get children
involved as much
as possible. I
don't believe that
a two year old
cannot learn and
experience God's
love, but it has
to be tailored to
their age
level. Our
goal is to have
Christian
Education for all
ages of children.