light of the recent tragedies in the U.S.A., many of us are experiencing grief,
anger and worry about the future. Communal grief also reinforces personal grief.
It is important to accept our feelings. Unacknowledged emotions cause stress which
tends to emerge later as health problems (e.g. cancer, heart disease, depression,
etc.). Spiritual traditions offered through prayers, liturgies and rituals help
people deal with grief. Contemporary writers have added to the history of comforting
as a rehearsal:
"Grief is the time when we are blessed with the opportunity
to complete a natural process of spiritual death and rebirth before our own death."
Stephanie Ericsson (Companion through the Darkness)
as a link to others:
"Grief is a sign that we loved something more
Grief makes us worthy to suffer with the rest of the world."
Joan Chittister (Gospel Days)
as a sign of love:
"Grief is love not wanting to let go."
Earl A. Grollman (Living with Loss)
"An English professor at college once told our class about
how he dealt with the death of a close friend. He said he went home and played
a recording of the saddest music he knew; he plunged into the darkness; he acknowledged
his grief and allowed it to pour out. He knew that the only way he could get beyond
his loss was to allow himself to feel the pain in all its intensity." Helen
Luke (The Way of Woman)
promise of Jesus:
"Blessed are they that mourn, for they shall be
St. Matthew: Chapter 5, Verse 4